Yesterday, as I prepared for my trip to Denver to attend the TedX conference I was feeling very mixed emotions. I had decided to attend this conference because I thought it would be a good opportunity to share my book and the story about the mitzvah project. However, it coincides with both the 5th anniversary of my father’s death – which felt quite poignant and my son’s 11th birthday which gave me some pause. I am definitely a hands on mom, I love making memories and traditions for my children and I was quite distraught about this dilemma. I spoke about my concerns with my son and he was very sweet, he said, “Mommy, if you think this is a good opportunity, then you should go. But you have to be back for my birthday party.” Of course, we have already planned the annual sleepover with some friends for this weekend. “Also, could you get me a Denver Bronco’s hat for QB Tim Tebow?” Absolutely!
I realize that other parents deal with these kinds of dilemmas all the time and that it was only new to me because I have recently started traveling more for the book promotion. Sometimes work opportunities will give us pause and we will have to make hard choices. I believe though it also helps us enjoy those simple moments in our lives when we are fully present because they are valuable, precious and fleeting. A missed opportunity is a simple reminder not to waste other moments.
To make up for the missed birthday today I had also joined my son and his school buddies for hot lunch at school yesterday and brought him a favorite meal from a local take out restaurant. That was a HUGE hit. I expect he will remember that I went away for his birthday but also that I made a point to do something before hand and afterwards to celebrate. At least that’s what I hope!
Happy Birthday to my smiling, creative, funny 11-year-old son, Solomon!